Any action we take is based on one of two basic emotions, love and fear. Love creates, fear destroys. Most actions based on fear are doomed to failure, as you well know. When we do something fast or forced (although we feel we shouldn’t do it) this usually ends up failing and we regret doing it in the first place.
With this idea in mind, we can realize that when we pray or do any therapy out of fear or despair, the results are delayed.
Many times, when a family member becomes ill, we desperately pray to God that the loved ones recover. The intentions are good, but our despair is based on fear. Fear of not losing that person or of something worse happening. This fear undermines all our efforts to make the situation better.
The solution here would be to live in acceptance of God’s will. Let us pray with hope, given that not all things are under our control. The solution would be to pray with hope and love for the person we love. If you feel that we cannot eliminate that despair from our prayers, then perhaps you should try the following exercise:
Find a comfortable position, close your eyes and inhale deeply through your nose and inflate your abdomen, then exhale lightly through your mouth. Do this process at least 3 times, and then focus on the area in the center of your chest. From there you can see how a pink light comes out and is directed at the sick person. That pink light represents your love and is directed with all the love towards that person.
Do this procedure daily for 5 minutes, and if you feel like losing your focus, come back slowly and without haste.
Tip: I usually choose a zen song that lasts 5 minutes, and as long as it plays, I do the process of transmitting love.
One last advice: Try to notice when your actions are based on the emotion of fear and try to change it with that of love.