How to love yourself? – 5 effective techniques

Loving yourself is and can be the most important thing in your life.

If there is no self-love, there is no love for other people, animals, objects, or other things.

Lack of self-love leads to disharmony with all aspects of life. One of these is the relationship with the life partner. You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself first. You must fill your own reservoir of love from which you can love your partner and others.

Lack of self-love affects both our health and our relationship with money. External abundance is directly proportional to self-love. The more you love yourself, the more abundance you attract into your life. Regarding health and its problems, things can get quite complicated. Symptoms such as headaches, muscle aches, inflammation of the thyroid or other organs, and the list can go on with panic attacks, anxiety, depression, and chronic fatigue. It is important to have great self-love in order to have iron health.

Be careful not to confuse self-love with narcissism or self-importance (ego). These are two toxic issues that have nothing to do with true self-love.

What can you do to love yourself?

First of all, you need to understand that there is a reason why you don`t love yourself, and this can result either from an important event in your life that affected your self-love or from a bad belief (program), inherited from parents, friends, teachers or other people in your life. The belief that tells you that you don’t deserve to love yourself enough.

You need to be aware that this bad belief can change with a conscious effort from your side. Changing a negative belief into a positive one is the subject of an entire article that we will discuss in the near future.

What you need to do to love yourself:

1. Take a break and indulge in something every day.

Give yourself at least a moment every day to be with yourself and to reward yourself with something nice. Buy that expensive coffee or ice cream and enjoy it alone on the terrace or on the bench of a river, wherever it makes you feel good.

It is important to reward ourselves often with something, even if that something is as small as an espresso. The simple gesture of paying attention and doing something for us every day contributes to building strong self-esteem and self-love.

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2. Small actions, the way of “eating an elephant with a teaspoon”

In order to cultivate your self-esteem, it is important to take small actions every day. Actions that once completed, become small victories, that contribute to higher self-esteem. Choose actions according to you and your personality.

Some examples here can be: making the bed in the morning, washing the laundry, finally learning to sew or play that piece on the guitar. For example, I like to make a list in the morning with the tasks I want to undertake and check them as I complete them. At the end of the day, I check the list again and I am left with complete satisfaction that contributes to my self-love a lot.

After a certain period, you will notice that you will feel much better in your skin and you will make a habit of keeping a list of actions performed. So take action starting today!

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3. Forgive yourself!

“At the bottom of your inner abyss sits a crying little child. Love that child. ”

Behind your self-love is self-forgiveness. Forgiving yourself can be as hard as climbing Mount Everest, but in the end, believe me, it’s worth it. With ambition and perseverance this can be achieved, I say this from my own experience.

You can identify an unforgiveness from an unpleasant event in your life that you know marked you and led to that low level of self-love. Forgive yourself from the past, for that event, and think about the real reasons you acted that way, at that time. We all have a more or less painful ego and history behind us, so forgive yourself by justifying the fact that someone else with your history probably would have acted the same way.

Say the words “I forgive myself” seriously and with your attention within yourself. You will notice that your mood will change for a moment into a state of self-compassion. The challenge is to carefully maintain that state for as long as possible even though it is difficult at first. By practicing this technique daily you will become better at it.

Practice daily self-forgiveness, no matter how long it takes, because, in the end, it will be worth it. You will experience the release of the burden that weighs on you, and your self-love will increase considerably.

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4. Conscious affirmations are accompanied by positive emotions.

We have all heard of the power of affirmations and many have probably tried, but we realized that this technique did not work. Well, if you ask why it didn’t work, the answer is a simple one: the statement was not accompanied by a positive emotion.

One of the methods by which you can associate a positive emotion with an affirmation is to add the magic word “already”, meaning to imagine what you want has already been fulfilled: “I already love myself.” or “I have already forgiven myself.”

The goal is to fool the subconscious, that what we really lack can be supplemented with a thought or an affirmation so that the problem is already solved. This practice is recommended in the morning after waking up and in the evening before bed. In these two moments, our subconscious is more active and records computer science better.

5. The technique of embracing yourself


You’ve probably heard of mood swings when you’re dejected, sad, or confused. Sketching a forced smile for 10 seconds transforms the mood. Well, so is embracing your own person. The moment you hug yourself for at least 10 seconds, you begin to change your mood into one of love and compassion for yourself.

Personally, I practice this technique 3-4 times a day every day, for a few minutes and I can guarantee that it works great. When you practice this technique, what is actually happening is a directing of energy from the outside to the inside.

Instead of conclusion:

I hope you find these techniques useful. The most important thing is to practice these methods daily and always look through the lens of self-love, not pain. It is also very important to realize that with every technique you practice you fill a gap, a chasm you have been in for too long, a tank that has been dried up, and now is the time to refill it with your own love.


Robert S.

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